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And Yet It Always Seems to Surprise Me...
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brookiki
In Criminal Law, we did two cases involving parents and children. Dead children. In the first, a child had an abscessed tooth that became gangrenous that led to malnutrition and pneumonia that led to death. The thing that put it over the top for me wasn't that they didn't think the child was sick, but the kid looked so bad that they were afraid that if they took him to the doctor, the doctor would think they were abusing him and take him away.

The second case was a hypo based on a case that happened around here last year. An assistant principal of a school had her child in the backseat and, because the daycare didn't open until after the donut shop open, decided to pick up first day of school donuts. She then went to the school, unloaded the donuts in a loading area, parked, and went in to start her day. Around 3PM, someone looked in the window of her car and saw the child in there. Death by hyperthermia (the temperature was over 100F outside and probably over 140F in the car).

So what surprises me about these cases? And the fact that a good portion of people in my class were sympathetic to the parents in both cases?

Simple. I've long held out that my dog gets better care than a lot of kids. I've also said (and most people agree) that my dog is better behaved that most kids, but we won't go into that. These two cases confirm that. Basically, if I think my dog is sick (or just acting strangely), it's a trip to the vet, regardless of how inconvenient it might be. And I can't imagine forgetting her in a car.

It's this simple, people: Regardless of your views on abortion, kids are a choice. If you don't want to raise a child, you can terminate the pregnancy. If you think abortion is wrong, then you can either give it up for adoption or just drop it off at a safe place after it's born (provided your state has laws that allow for this).

If you have the baby and if you keep the child, then you, as its parent, are obligated to care for it. Period. You are obligated to not only make the best and most responsible decisions based on what you know, but you're obligated to go to one of the many sources of help and information if you encounter a problem you aren't familiar with.

Letting your child die because you're afraid the doctor might judge you or because it's more important to pick up donuts for the staff meeting is not acceptable. And it's as simple as that.

Children deserve better. Heck, dogs deserve better.

(Oops, that was kind of a rant, wasn't it? ;-))

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Rants are good! But... I think this is far from it. This is educated opinion.

I really agree with your view points here. What gets my gullet is how acceptable violent TV and movies are, but the main scapegoat consists of video games. "X under 18 child played Grand Theft Auto, so that means they copied the game and committed a crime". It says clearly on the label, 18+, but when these little boys(usually) beg mommy for the game that is clearly slated to be for 18+ people, they still buy it for the kid. And I also despise parents that let the TV be a babysitter.

I am just glad my mom was always considerate of me growing up. Sure, I was allowed to watch Beavis and Butthead from 3rd grade, and I was watching South Park in 6th when it first came out, but I always knew right from wrong as she taught me while watching the shows "Hey, this is a cartoon, don't copy this." I think sheltered kids(like my one guy friend) end up getting crazier without the exposure over time.

It's really sick what some people do to kids. I live near a nice high-crime area- Youngstown, and have heard of babies being left in trash cans.:\

Glad it wasn't too ranty. It was one of those things where the more I wrote, the more annoyed I felt.

But you're right on all of it. I was amazed because this woman walked into GameStop to buy GTA: Vice City. The guy behind the counter asked her what system she had. She's like "Oh, I don't know. It's for my 7-year-old." The guy behind the counter said "You know, that game's rated M for pretty much every reason you can rate a game M." Her response? "Oh, it's okay, he's played it before."

And I think the problem with those situations is that the parents usually take such a hands off approach that they don't do anything to temper the games. If the parents are actively practicing (not teaching, practicing) good values, then the kids are going to take the values from the parents, not the TV/game. But if the parents don't bother with anything, then the TV/game is the only source. So it amounts to bad parenting.

As far as what people do to kids, that's bad, but the whole "victim of society" mentality is worse. Yes, some people have horrible lives and the odds are really stacked against them, but you stop being a victim when you victimize someone more vulnerable than you.

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